Approaching a woman to ask her out on a date is a nerve-wracking event even for the most steely-nerved among us. There’s the potential for embarrassment and rejection, and that’s enough to put most of us off the prospect altogether.
However, as your dad was probably fond of saying, nothing ventured, nothing gained, and if you want to go on dates, you are going to have to run the gauntlet at some point.
You can’t guarantee success, of course, but there are certain strategies that you can employ to maximise your chances of getting a “yes” when you ask someone out on a date. Here are 8 steps to give you the best possible chance of landing a date with the girl of your dreams:
#1. Do Some Basic Due Diligence to See if She’s Available. If the woman you’re hoping to go on a date with isn’t even single, you’re going to be shot down pretty quickly, and that’s a waste of time for everyone (although, not bad practice!). It’s not always possible to find out ahead of time whether or not she’s single, especially if she’s a stranger in a bar, but if it’s someone you know through friends you can check ahead of time that, as far as they know, she’s interested in dating.
It’s also important to bear in mind that not every woman is interested in dating men, period. Remember that it’s possible that the girl of your dreams has a girl of her dreams, if you catch our drift. You don’t especially need to modify your behaviour in this case — there’s no need to add weird, “unless you’re gay?” disclaimers when you ask her out — but it’s just something to keep in mind, and to be chill about if it turns out men aren’t her thing.